Surprise! (Saigon, Vietnam)

HI, BLOG WORLD.
Surprise!
K and E aren’t in NZ anymore, but K and E Abroad works for a couple of can’t-be-fucked, sorry-too-lazy travelers in the meantime.

Here’s what you’ve missed in the last several months—
KH launched right into wedding season upon arrival home. ET stayed behind in New Zealand for one month to sell the van. We worked hard, happily, successfully, slowly, distractedly, and begrudgingly in varying degrees for the next 8 months, and drank a lot of coffee. We left home on New Year’s Eve, watching the fireworks show from the plane, with plans to spend the month of January in Vietnam.
Within days we were looking for an escape route.
A vacation is not the same as traveling.
We slashed our must-see list, removed every to-do, and focused our attention on smaller achievements: crossing the street, eating soup with chopsticks, and working out the best use for the ubiquitous hotel bidet. We’ve spent the last week on an island closer to the coast of Cambodia, biding our time and conserving the few passport pages I have left, before we fly further south.
I’m ready for the next month in a new country. To GTFO of Nam. And to start writing again,—hi, Mom!—sharing experiences in our pretty little corner of Le Blog World.
Ready?
(…Annnnd, team!)

Taihape Soul Cafe

My knees are busted. My hips creak and complain. I feel like I’m hungover. But I can now cross multi-day hike off my bucket list. Hooray?

Depending on the mile marker, our destination was either Howlett’s Hut! Or How Let’s NOT. Given that we’d up end traversing 51.5 MILES (according to Siri) it was more often the slander of the latter. (Sorry, Mr. Howlett.)

To begin, it seems appropriate to record and rant about the hike first. E’erbody likes a happy ending, so we better get the ugly outta the way. That being said, why don’t we just zoom forward to the first emotional breakdown, eh?

The circumstances: Day 1, about 7 hours into our “8 hour” hike. Wet feet, weary bones. Eyes hopeful as we crest every ridge, eagerly scanning each new horizon for the hut. Eric: “Well, it looks like we go down this dip, up that peak, and 4-5 ridges over. We’re probably 1.5 hours away yet.” After repeated reassurances that my darling was not joking, I lasted 10 minutes before the onset of the deluge. I fell into a ditch covered by a bush and wept. Full, gasping sobs that didn’t fully subside until we reached our destination 2 hours later.

Breakdown #2 set in when the sun did. Following the smallest suggestion of a “track” we were constantly stumbling into bogs, being scratched and skewered by hardy alpine flora, attempting to race the sun. Darkness was quickly descending at the same rapid pace that my right knee was beginning to scream with shooting pains.

And it was in this condition, my weakest hours, that we were saved. A mirage in a desert of tears, a bloody deer head in hand, a group of strangers promised to show us the way. And when we arrived to the promised land, we found beer. Lots of it. And chocolate chip cookies. Bags of them. And I’ll be damned if we didn’t smash that manna from heaven, double fisting each, before being offered 2nds, 3rds, and a cup of jello. I thank those same heavens that those hunters were there. For that foursome who showed us the way, filled our bellies, and entertained us for a few hours before bed, all the while keeping that furnace piping hot. BLESS YOU, YOU GENTLE SOULS.

Day 2.

In addition to the squad of lively deer hunters overnighting at Howlett’s, we also shared our bunkhouse experience with a fellow named Phil. Former schoolteacher, former husband, he quit both and decided to hike the length of New Zealand. On the morning of our second day, the 2 of us watched the sunrise together from the front porch. I traded him a mandarin for a hot cup of coffee and he explained that the root cause of my knee pain was buried in tight, overextended quads. And just like that, my life was saved all over again on the trail! Praise! Our new friend ended up accompanying us for the next 4 hours on the trail, after setting out from our little shelter. I was grateful for the distraction, conversation, and inspiration. We socialize with strangers far less than I ever anticipated on this trip. It’s been an unexpected disappointment as that–people, interactions, characters!–are usually the most interesting meat of my travels.

We came to a crossroads around lunchtime at mile #11. Sitting on the saddle, munching on the last set of sandwiches, it was decision time. Go back the way we arrived, trudging again through the marshes up the mountain, or opt for the longer, more gentle and mysterious route back to the car park, skirting the ominous unending vertebrae of Mt. Tunupo. With a great sigh, we heaved our packs back onto sore shoulders and took the fork on the right: the longer, hopefully more leisurely option.

And it sucked.
Whoops.

But at least I was more mentally fit to undertake the 17 miles remaining. My manta: I will be grateful for this day, one step at a time. And I was. Part of the time. We were up against a whopping set of challenges–low food and water stores, poorly marked and overgrown trails, nightfall when we still had 2 hours remaining–but we also had each other. And while that’s the cheesiest statement to enter the journal in some time, the truth and value of it are indisputable. We helped each other. We encouraged each other. And we pulled each other up, both literally and figuratively, when things got particularly precarious. When he says, “We’re a team,” I say, “And I’ll follow you anywhere, darling.”

-K

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^One of the only photos of me on the hike. This was when I was still happy and wanted that sort of thing. Allllmost at the top of Mt. T.

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^ This was the site of the first breakdown. I was in bad shape, but even through my misery I could recognize the value of dragging the camera out.

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^A less artistic shot from the same moment. Although THIS one shows how far we had to go. The hut is somewhere buried below the 4th ridge or so to the right. Also recall, I thought we would be DONE by this point.

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^Again, quite distraught, bit still able to unzip the pack for the Canon. That light!

2016-05-09_0017^Howlett’s Hut exterior + interior. It’s a first come, first serve, cozy little 10 bed structure. They’re usually MUCH more primitive, but the hunters we bunked with took a helicopter in with an ungodly weight allowance. (They woke us up the next morning with BACON sizzling for their BANANA PANCAKES. I appreciated their generosity the night before, but this was a keen cruelty when we were down to peanut butter and jelly.)

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^ About to set out on the return hike. Trying to stave off feelings of panic at the day I knew was waiting for us.

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^ Bye, Howlett’s.

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^ Lunch.

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^ Hiking buddiez.

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^Parting ways with Phil.

-K

Cape Egmont Lighthouse

I lost my shit when I lost my shoe.

It was slurped up by the bog monster, to cries of despair and dismay. Was it the universe trying to scold me, punishing and preventing me from jumping that farmer’s fence? Possibly. But don’t you also think the universe might have delighted in the production of a dazzling photograph of a lighthouse at sunrise?

But alas, the artistic sensibilities and partialities of this dashed world are of no consequence. Following the separation of foot and flip-flop, I handed the camera off to Eric and launched a full scale campaign to sulk. (An ongoing wallow, really, for I’ve just now snuck in to the cupboard for my second hit of self indulgent chocolate. Don’t judge. It’s a welcome balm for my weary soul.)

Anywho.

After finding myself ankle deep in a squelching quagmire of mud (and feces?) I picked my way around the minefield of thistle thickets back to the safety of concrete. I stood barefoot beside the lighthouse, wondering if indeed this was the cosmos directing my focus. (And we’re back to that.)

Perhaps this is a lesson to be found only in the slick, soggy depths of a cow pasture, that I need to put down the camera more often. A reminder that snap shots for the social media machine are shallow. That forgoing all of my other senses to create a single, curated visual is absurd. That focusing on the “what will they think of it later” versus the “how do I FEEL about it NOW” is silly. Silly, silly, fucking silly.

But where’s that line drawn? Does this mean that taking photographs holds no real positive value in our personal experiences? Does it DEvalue them, taking one away from the moment? Am I allowed to capture, just not allowed to share? Does photography ironically thwart our attempts to “capture” a moment, laughing in our faces, as the very act inherently weakens it for the photographer?

I remember being asked by my big brother to photograph his marriage proposal several years ago. Our families gathered, the question and cork were both popped, and a festive CHEERS followed as glasses touched and twinkled. I remember capturing a beautiful photo of that moment. But more vividly, I remember having no one to clink my glass with after the moment had passed, passing me by in the process. I was there. But I wasn’t there.

And so I ask again: at what point does being a photographer get in the way of being present? Can these two courses coexist? Where’s the balance?

-K

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^ Well. Tadaaaa. Turns out we did come away with an even better photograph than the one I had originally planned. When I handed the camera off to Eric in a fit of disgust, he didn’t end up being so idle with it. Me + Egmont + Mt. Taranaki in the distance. (First lighthouse I’ve ever seen with a volcanic backdrop. Whoop, whoop!)

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^ The lighthouse the night before at sunset. Yeeeeeah, buddy.

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^ Seaside puzzlin + yet another view of the lighthouse at night

2016-05-09_0004^ This. This, this, this. Happiness. Joy.

Kaikoura

Murphy’s Law states that anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

Me, I would like to know who this Murphy chap is, so I can either tell him to go fly a kite or to go fuck himself, depending on his vibe and our rapport. Either way, he’s not getting off easy.

Our newest “adventures” involve furry, thieving critters in our midst with an appetite for wholemeal bread with grains. (Hey, I get it; fiber is important.) This morning while breakfast was underway, it was noticed that the loaf was gouged and the bag shredded by a pair of tiny teeth. And thus, my morale has been gouged and my peace of mind shredded.

Also: the van has taken to wild gyration while on the road and we need new tires. The end.

-K

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NOT TIMARU!

I envisioned celebrating this moment by spraying champagne bubbles from atop the van, the peachy foam cascading down my bikini top in waves of joy.

For real.

I even bought a new one. A bright, cheery cross between coral and mandarin to align with the color scheme of the decor. (It was only $10. On clearance. That magical “c” word.) But instead of celebrating, we are quietly enduring. One flimsy glass of wine. Sagging sweatpants, the picture of defeat.

It’s one thing to toss around hypothetical sums in one’s head. To mentally deduct a figure from one’s bank account, 2 weeks in advance as preparation. But it’s quite another when a young girl with bottle black hair and too much eyeliner says the words seven THOUSAND sixty-one.. AND EIGHTY-SIX CENTS. Her voice is casual. Even. The same tone as if we’d just pumped $17 of diesel into the tank and could get away with sliding a single, rumpled note across the counter.

My hands tremble as I scribble out the signatures that indicate my legal approval. YES, they say! Proceed! I didn’t care about that particular portion of savings anyway! Impassively, the clerk looks on. She doesn’t get it. She must be too young. A name tag with too many redundant, cutesy consonants precludes her from true understanding. She produces the wan smile perfected by customer service employees that hate their job, and slides our 2 receipts across to us–I don’t carry a card that allows single transactions of that gargantuan size–stapled to an invoice 3 pages long.

I’m happy to have Paula back. There’s only so many times you can trick yourself into believing that the traffic outside your window is really a rolling ocean. But this does mean I’ll have to switch back to cage eggs to compensate. The bikini though–that stays. I’m only able to sacrifice so much.

-K

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^ Wine for the win. Junkyard edition. Our home for the past 2 weeks. SEE YA, NEVER.

Tim.A.Ru.

Our days in this purgatory are numbered. Praaaise! The engine is going in TODAY! It’s up on the hoists NOW having the pieces reassembled! Eric and I have been teetering on the edge of the abyss, holding on to our sanity, groping for good news. As amusing as it is to be coffee shop regulars, now recognizable by the staff at Arthur St, I’m over it. Too bad we’re only a few cappuccinos away on our loyalty card to our free drink! LE SIGH. Somehow we shall live with the heavy sacrifice while we cruise down Highway 8 (TOMORROW?!?!?!?!) giving this city the finger as it disappears in the rearview.

-K

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^ I’ll fess up. We sit in the same corner every damn day. And this iiiisn’t it. But THE ALLEY out back is far more photogenic. Waggles eyebrows.
^ “I’ll just get up first and peek and make sure no one is out there. Then you come with the empty cups.”

Timaru

There have been no young and handsome police officers. No quirky good deeders. No shimmering desert roads bathed in golden rays of sun. Having the van break down has been a far LESS romantic event than Hollywood would leave me to believe.

I KNEW it would happen.
And secretly: I relished the prospect.

Naive, stateside Kimberly thought, Aha! Therein lies a story to be collected! One more gold coin in the piggybank of adventurous mishaps!

However I now know those must be chocolate coins I had envisioned, wrapped in gold foil, for we drown our sorrows with cocoa powder. All of our real gold coins are sunk into a van that feels less like a treasure with each passing day.

-K

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elegance is an attitude

Mirrors have become a novelty in this lifestyle and I have now had the opportunity to gaze upon my reflection THREE times since yesterday morning. This owing to the newly discovered toilets in the small strip mall by the supermarket. We’ve happily changed our bathroom loyalties from the stalls at the park, effective immediately. Still no paper towels in either, but our new potties can boast soap (FEELIN’ FANCY NOW) and mirrors. Cue the horror movie music.

One glance and I’m instantly back in a world where upstanding citizens are beholden to maintain sleek brows. I’m eyeing up my ponytail, wondering if I’ve surpassed the acceptable limit of grease. Clothing is tugged, tightened, and rearranged while I try to gauge whether this jumpsuit flatters my ass and shows too my armpit hair. It’s a personal battle every time I have to pee, and one I’ve managed to lose 3 of 3 times.

I feel sloppy. Dirty. Secretly repulsed by this underarm crusade.
I feel ugly. Inadequate. Secretly desirous of my comfortable life back in Minnesota.

But then–
OH!–

Something sort of miraculous occurs. I quit examining my exterior, I splash my face with water from the tap, and I look myself in the eyes. I square up to that reflection, I slowly smile, and inform it that elegance is an attitude. After drying my hands daintily on the legs of my pants, I exit. I give the handsome man waiting for me a whopping smack o the lips. And I tell him again how wonderful it is to be on this adventure together.

-K

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Gleniti Auto Shop

Today has been a day of tummy aches.

The first wave of nausea I came by honestly. Really, that’s what you get for sitting in the passenger seat at the grocery store, a giant slab of “moist chocolate cake” in your lap, and your fingers for forks. I attacked that colossal rectangle of sugar with much gusto, zero grace. The cake then repaid the favor, attacking me in turn.
Aching tummy.
Tummy. Ache.
(Happy birthday, Judy!)

The second episode today wasn’t chocolate induced, but the kind of ache that festers from a deep, little nugget of frustration, foreboding, and stress. The final diagnosis on the van: a cracked head. Whatever the EFF that means. (Eric tried to patiently explain the situation but lost me at “pistons.”) According to Malan, the new BFF, it’s an additional $2,800 to fix, plus the $400 charge already levied upon us for 3 days of head scratching.
Ouch.
I know I’m more affected than I outwardly show or recognize, because when my dear is visibly distressed, I cleave my yin to his yang to try and retain some measure of balance + harmony.

Lastly in today’s misadventures of the stomach: the universe is listening. And the universe hates us.
Cooking dinner, camping in the back parking lot of the auto shop, I SAY the motherfucking cursed words: I HOPE OUR LPG RUNS OUT WHILE WE ARE HERE. HA, HA. A mere 5 minutes later, trying to mix my raw steak into a sizzling mess of hot veggies, the burner dimmed, shuddered, and disappeared altogether. Apparently my poor wit in noticing that the auto shop advertised gas refills was mistaken as an urgent, celestial plea for a ruined dinner, as the shop had closed 10 minutes previous. That wasted $8 of sustenance had me closer to tears than a figure 400x that amount as quoted by Malan. (Hey, boo.)

I miss home.

-K

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^ Exploring the Victorian district of Oamaru, a sweet little town to the south.

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^ Old photos to fill in while we waste away our days at the town bibliotheca.

Timaru

Calm. That’s the word. Sometimes relaxed, but mostly calm. This has been my assigned label for the past several years by casual acquaintances and coworkers. I get it. Sort of. But it just means we’ve never played a board game together, nor engaged in any kind of competitive activity. Rolling dice, dealing cards, cracking a croquet ball, and I’m likely a raging menace. Which is why after 171 recorded games of rummy, Eric is calling for a cessation in game play.

… I get it.

I want to be cool, I do. I’m not proud of the number of times I’ve overturned boards and pieces during family game nights. I’m still embarrassed by that afternoon when I was 14, throwing a miniature golf club manically around hole #12 in town, with my daddio vowing to never bring me back again. I have managed to rein in my bad behavior over the years, but this new rummy obsession has been my un-fucking-doing. Eric is the enemy. I’m demented with my desire to win. I now require deep breaths and closed eyes to restrain my impulses to throw cards and bang fists upon every dramatic loss. And I think what the eff is going on?
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For the record: on truly important matters in life, my behaviors are much more mature and optimistic. I’m not usually such a demon, I promise.

-K

2016-02-23_0006^Speaking of undoings, let’s chat about how making mushroom and butternut risotto with Bulgarian sheep’s feta should only be attempted by the bravest of campervan cooks. Nightmare. But a delicious one.